Jaye Gaff
I need to talk about alcohol
I don’t drink. I haven’t drank in ages and it’s such an ingrained part of Australian culture that I am seen as weird. I grew up around...
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Jaye Gaff
- Aug 8
- 2 min
Comparing
I don’t understand comparisons. Unless it’s saying “I prefer cherries to blueberries.” But I keep seeing these things on social media...
Jaye Gaff
- Aug 1
- 2 min
The ache
I randomly found this post in my drafts folder and have decided to publish it. I may not always feel this way but, sometimes, it’s a nice...
Jaye Gaff
- Jul 25
- 3 min
on marriage
Husband and I got married on our five year dating anniversary. It wasn’t that the date was entirely sentimental to us — all we did on...
Jaye Gaff
- Jul 22
- 2 min
Crier
I’m not much of a crier. Or, I wasn’t much of a crier until I was in my 3rd trimester of pregnancy and I started crying over episodes of...
Jaye Gaff
- Jul 21
- 5 min
Hating Your Body
My hatred of who I was and what I looked like came from my family and started from a very young age. I was very, very skinny. My mother...
Jaye Gaff
- Jul 18
- 2 min
Parenting & the “I Hate You”
Once upon a time I surprised my child with a trip to go get a second piercing in her ear. I cooked. I cleaned. I made it nice. A few...
Jaye Gaff
- Jul 11
- 3 min
I have a confession
When people started complaining that petrol was $2 a litre I rolled my eyes. Because I honestly believed you could just put $10 in your...
Jaye Gaff
- Jul 4
- 2 min
everybody hurts
I recently had a meltdown, or epiphany, or both, at work where I realised *all* I had done that day was search for articles and social...
Jaye Gaff
- Jun 13
- 3 min
Shit I can’t do
I am pretty self-sufficient in the sense that I can do things for myself. I just refuse to. I’ve decided life is hard enough as it is and...
Jaye Gaff
- Jun 9
- 3 min
You'll Get Shit On No Matter What
I'm tossing up whether I should become a motivational speaker or a quote maker. What do you think? You'll get shit on on matter what so...
Jaye Gaff
- Jun 6
- 2 min
The quote that changed my relationship
I don’t love making grandiose statements like this “changed my life” but this one really did. I don’t really know if Bob Marley even said...
Jaye Gaff
- Jun 3
- 1 min
...
I don't even know what to title this one which seems rather dramatic but is the truth. I, along with countless other abuse survivors, are...
Jaye Gaff
- May 30
- 1 min
An Ice Maker
I love cold water. I will drink no other water. Room temperature is just another way of saying “ass water”. It tastes like ass. I have...
Jaye Gaff
- May 23
- 2 min
How do you prepare for your existence to end?
I am due for surgery and since I got the date, actually, scratch that, before I got the date I started to ponder my life and how utterly...
Jaye Gaff
- May 20
- 3 min
An Aversion to Dining Tables
I have a strong dislike for dining tables. Eating at them, that is. Some of it stems from the rigmarole of sitting at one as a kid. The...
Jaye Gaff
- May 16
- 1 min
Underwear & Surgery
So, after 5 years of trying to get an insurance company to pay for surgery, and then being kicked off insurance because they can’t pay me...
Jaye Gaff
- May 12
- 1 min
So, why did you get married?
Because I think monogamy is an outdated concept I have been asked many many times - why did you even get married? And I’ve never really...
Jaye Gaff
- May 9
- 3 min
Matchmaker, Matchmaker, Burn His House Down...
A few weeks ago I tried to play matchmaker which is a big step for me because usually I don't care about people and their relationships....
Jaye Gaff
- May 2
- 2 min
A Love Letter to a Shitty Studio Apartment
I moved in with Husband when I was 19. We both knew what it was -- we weren't ready to live together but I need out from my mother's...
Jaye Gaff
- Apr 25
- 3 min
Oh shit, I’m married
In July, I will have been married for 12 years. At least I think it’s 12 because I always forget. I am not good with number. Anyway, I’ve...
Jaye Gaff
- Apr 11
- 2 min
The ways we punish ourselves
I shy away from talking about the fact that I punish myself because it's not nice to think about and it's scary to admit. Once I admit it...
Jaye Gaff
- Apr 4
- 2 min
On privilege
I recently unfollowed someone on Instagram because they refused to acknowledge their privilege. I don’t say this to act holier than thou....
Jaye Gaff
- Mar 28
- 2 min
You're "just" a mother
I was told this by an abuser and I believed it. It was my worst fears realised. That giving birth had rendered me useless. That's...